Over the last 4 months, my life has been turning up side down. Problem with family, work all mixed together and appears that God had a different view about what I suppose to do in my life and my priority in life.
The old concept seem not working at all and there is a strong push for me to rethink what means to me and what they are.
I used to focus on work and making more money, as I feel I am always lack of it and still am, but does that fix all my problem, at least at this very moment, no. I does not help me in anyway. I appear that only love seem to mean something for me, love from family, from friends and love of life.
Life used to be miserable to me and still am at the very point of time, but you need to love it, embrace it the way it is and make the most of it, rather than making more complains and excuses.
From today, I will stop complain and make my life enjoyable and hopefully all good things emanates.
星期四, 4月 28, 2016
星期三, 4月 27, 2016
Today is the date to 'celebrate' the first month anniversary at my temporary home, which to me is more or less like a self-made prison, which no sentence, no date and no hope.
For over the last few months, I am not sure why me and my wife would end up like what is today and recently, I found out a lot of people at my position have a very similar situation in their 40s. I wish this could end soon but I really have no idea.
I know what is lacking between me and my wife, QUALITY TIME, I simply do not focus to give any spare time for her any my family and thanks to Kevin, I know what are the important features in love which I hope I could tackle all of them and mitigate to my wife.
For over the last few months, I am not sure why me and my wife would end up like what is today and recently, I found out a lot of people at my position have a very similar situation in their 40s. I wish this could end soon but I really have no idea.
I know what is lacking between me and my wife, QUALITY TIME, I simply do not focus to give any spare time for her any my family and thanks to Kevin, I know what are the important features in love which I hope I could tackle all of them and mitigate to my wife.
星期五, 4月 08, 2016
I have moved away from home for a whole month as of now and I realize the problem between us.
1) I have a very bad temper which when triggered very hard to stop.
2) We have never see any good example of good couples on how to resolve conflicts in marriage, as both of our parents were not good examples
3) We have over estimated our abilities, e.g. she have over estimated her ability of being a full time mom and house wife, while I have over estimated my ability to stay clam working at home, etc.
4) We do not have any date nights for a very long time, which caused lack of communications, I mean quality communications.
5) I have a haunting childhood, which my childhood memory comes up when I see the same situation at home.
6) I do not know how to prioritize work and family life, for a very long time, work always come first, which is very wrong.
7) I do not have enough or enough quality time with my family or good real care of my family members, a lot of the time, the care is just skin deep. I admit that I am not sensitive and care enough.
8) I always think that when I provided good material life, my family will be happy and in fact no.
9) My wife is very independent and some time a bit wild, so, I have miss treated her as a normal Chinese housewife.
10) I do not appreciate my wife enough for all she had done and some time, my wife being a bit stubborn, she do not know how to show she love me, I actually just need a hug or a kiss after a long day.
Thank you very much for this I call "Family Incident 2016", I realize that I have miss treated my family for so long and they deserve better. As it is still April at the moment, I would dedicate the remaining of the year to improve myself, to improve the way I treat my family, to show more appreciation, to care more and to love more. I hope my beloved wife would realize the effort I have made and the changes I have done and hope we could reunite very soon.
1) I have a very bad temper which when triggered very hard to stop.
2) We have never see any good example of good couples on how to resolve conflicts in marriage, as both of our parents were not good examples
3) We have over estimated our abilities, e.g. she have over estimated her ability of being a full time mom and house wife, while I have over estimated my ability to stay clam working at home, etc.
4) We do not have any date nights for a very long time, which caused lack of communications, I mean quality communications.
5) I have a haunting childhood, which my childhood memory comes up when I see the same situation at home.
6) I do not know how to prioritize work and family life, for a very long time, work always come first, which is very wrong.
7) I do not have enough or enough quality time with my family or good real care of my family members, a lot of the time, the care is just skin deep. I admit that I am not sensitive and care enough.
8) I always think that when I provided good material life, my family will be happy and in fact no.
9) My wife is very independent and some time a bit wild, so, I have miss treated her as a normal Chinese housewife.
10) I do not appreciate my wife enough for all she had done and some time, my wife being a bit stubborn, she do not know how to show she love me, I actually just need a hug or a kiss after a long day.
Thank you very much for this I call "Family Incident 2016", I realize that I have miss treated my family for so long and they deserve better. As it is still April at the moment, I would dedicate the remaining of the year to improve myself, to improve the way I treat my family, to show more appreciation, to care more and to love more. I hope my beloved wife would realize the effort I have made and the changes I have done and hope we could reunite very soon.
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